Im only a phone call away.

What can you say to someone diagnosed with cancer. Let them be the one to tell others. It is natural to worry about these things and to be upset by them. Speak through body language by placing your hand over your friends hand or give your friend a hug.

If someone else asks you about it you can say something like Its not up to me to share this but Im sure ____ will appreciate your concern. When someone you love is diagnosed with cancer it is hard to know what to say. Forget advice forget the stories of others with cancer and leave silence behind you when you learn about a friends cancer diagnosis Its inevitable.

But you probably dont know exactly how someone else feels unless you have a similar diagnosis. Its OK for them to take the diagnosis. The worst you can do is to say nothing.

Uncertainty not knowing what the future holds can be one of the hardest things to deal with when you are diagnosed with cancer. I dont think any cancer patient expects people to know the right things to say. If someone tells you that they have cancer you should never tell anyone else unless they have given you permission.

Think positive thoughts may sound like good advice but it can be dismissive of your friends feelings. Talking about a breast cancer diagnosis isnt fun. Even if you yourself have cancer chances are pretty good that you will not be alone in your circle of friends.

The best medicine is often listening to someone express their thoughts feelings and emotions. I think the card is a good idea as you can say what you feel without having much contact with him. But putting pen to paper and writing some comforting words for someone with cancer is a simple way to provide support.