For example try saying Im here for you and always will be or Ill keep you in my thoughts and prayers Then be quiet and see where the conversation goes from there.

What do you say when someone tells you they have terminal cancer. Go at their pace and start by talking about things they feel comfortable with. They have to think of something they need then try and reach out to you and hope you were serious about the offer. Why shouldnt you offer to help.

The most important thing you can do when you want to talk with someone who knows theyre going to die is to let that person lead the conversation. If someone else asks you about it you can say something like Its not up to me to share this but Im sure ____ will appreciate your concern. Do you care about them.

Should I ask about their illness or avoid the subject. I have enormously appreciated such messages. Many people ignore cancer patients and caregivers when theyre diagnosed because they dont know what to say.

This is totally normal. If youre having a hard time thinking of what to say you might feel like giving up and not sending a card at all. LYNDSEY Clark doesnt have much time left and shes tired.

Many people in a situation like yours would have that reaction. Let me know what you need Saying that and meaning it may be the most incredibly important act of kindness youll ever do for your loved one. The best advice in this situation is to say how you feel.

You dont have to be witty or wise just use genuine and constructive statements. Let them be the one to tell others. What not to say to someone whos dying.