I know just how you.

What can you say to someone who has terminal cancer. Listening can be enough. Many people ignore cancer patients and caregivers when theyre diagnosed because they dont know what to say. You can still reach out with a sincere card letting that person know that youre thinking of them.

Even if it feels as if youre not doing anything your presence sends an important message. Here are some things you can say to help show your care and support. Speak in a calm quiet voice and avoid sudden noises or movements to reduce the chances of startling the patient.

What to Say to a Cancer Patient. Set a limit on how long you will talk for. It must be so hard to summarise what your feeling.

If youre really stumped about what to say its OK not to address the illness directly but ask what you can do and to make sure the person knows youre there and available says Kimberly Borzym a chaplain at Advocate Hospice in Chicago. But I guess you could let him know how you sympathise what he is going through and let him know that you arent holding any grudges against him and maybe wish him the best. Dont ask what you can do to help or say Let me know if you need anything.

If someone in your life has terminal cancer but you dont know them very well you might not know what to say. Many people will. And those who have lost loved ones say that they wish they had called in hospice care sooner.

If you are open and honest with the person you love a simple text message or short email may remind them that they are in your thoughts. It seems reasonable to me to be feeling sad. Talking about feelings can be tiring.