Or how their third cousin on their moms side got a terrible infection from the same surgery I was about to have.

What to tell someone who got diagnosed with cancer. As a three-time cancer survivor of breast cervical and uterus cancer it was hard for me to tell anyone other than my husband of my diagnosis. You can just say I have friend who went through cancer. Something simple and positive such as Youve got this is good.

It can come across. The worst you can do is to say nothing. Im only a phone call away.

What to say and not say when someone tells you they have cancer. Supporting someone with cancer begins with active listening says Cancer Councils head of cancer information and support services Meg Chiswell. He had to know because he was my best friend and I knew he would be there for me no matter how ugly it got.

If you try to equate your friends diagnosis to a difficult period is yours or somebody elses life. Add the words with cancer to the way you think of him or her. Knowing that other people cared helped me to realize that I was not alone.

Dont expect the patient to comfort you in your sadness or concern over their diagnosis. People diagnosed with cancer often say that their greatest concern is for the people they love that they feel guilty about putting them through such a stressful experience. Youve got this The acknowledgment was the important thing when I was going through cancer says Lesh.

If you are open and honest with the person you love a simple text message or. When someone you love is diagnosed with cancer it is hard to know what to say. Be the comforter not the one looking for comfort.