What to say and not say when someone tells you they have cancer Supporting someone with cancer begins with active listening says Cancer Councils head of cancer information and support services Meg Chiswell.

What to say when you hear someone has terminal cancer. You have always been there for me when I needed help. The best advice in this situation is to say how you feel. Try not to say that everything will be fine or encourage them to be positive.

Are you thinking about them. If someone tells you that they have cancer you should never tell anyone else unless they have given you permission. Medicines and treatments people receive at the end of life can control pain.

Im here for you. Dont know what to say. Im sorry to hear what you are going through.

Do tell the person you are thinking of them praying for them keeping them in your thoughts etc. Try to listen instead of thinking about what you are going to say next. But a card for an acquaintance with terminal cancer will be worded differently than one for a family member or friend.

But the persons care continues with an emphasis on improving their quality of life and that of their loved ones and making them comfortable for the following weeks or months. Im sorry Im not the best at giving advice but ill try my best. I would be so glad to help if I can.

Anxiety about saying the wrong thing may encourage you to say nothing which can feel disappointing. You are not alone. Equally sending love hugs strength courage etc.