It is better to say I dont know what to say than to stop calling or visiting out of fear.

What to say when someone finds out they have terminal cancer. The way you write to someone who has just been diagnosed at an early primary stage is quite different from how you should write to someone who has metastatic cancer and different again from someone who is definitely terminal. Let the individual scream shout punch the wall shake a fist to the sky or whatever else will help. Equally sending love hugs strength courage etc.

Generally Id say that avoiding the subject is not good. Im thinking of you. If someone tells you that they have cancer you should never tell anyone else unless they have given you permission.

I felt like asking him how he would feel if someone knocked on his door and told him that his son had a. You can just say I have friend who went through cancer a few years ago if you like I can put you in touch. Find out at what stage the person is in his or her cancer journey.

Get involved with CRUK. Do tell the person you are thinking of them praying for them keeping them in your thoughts etc. Here are some things you can say to help show your care and support.

Listen to what the person has to say without judgment and make sure the individual knows that youll always be there no matter what. I have enormously appreciated such messages. Im only a phone call away.

Its difficult to know what to say or do for a friend or family member who has a terminal illness. This means that it is likely to cause death within a limited period of time. When cancer is advanced it means that it cant be cured.