I didnt tell them because they were too young to understand.
What to say when a mother loses her child. A mother should never have to grieve for the loss of her children. Its truly a sad tragedy when a mothers own offspring have to be buried before the parents pass into the next world. My daughters lost their mom when they were 5 and 6 years old.
Leaving a child with an unfit mother is not in the childs best interest. Share a favorite memory or connection with the child. Compliment the one who is gone.
They also need grief support down the road. Relief from suffering is a blessing but doesnt make it easier for those who miss her so. Whether its a newborn or a full-grown adult a parent will never be able to bear with the pain of losing their own child.
Dont say anything to her at the office. If she doesnt want to talk try and feel that out and respect it. If she wants to talk listen.
So my standard advice goes something like this. If there is anything I can do please let me know. Everything happens for a reason is meaningless and not at all comforting.
Im willing to help in any way Offer silence. Even so accidents and misfortune just happen all the time and we can only put more faith in God believing that He has His reasons for taking our loved ones away from us at such a young age. Grieving parents tend to be showered with love and attention immediately following the loss which is great.