Even if it feels as if youre not doing anything your presence sends an important message.

What to say to someone who has a terminal illness. Generally Id say that avoiding the subject is not good. But unspecific offers of help can often seem meaningless. How can I help my loved one cope with a terminal illness.

Dont say things like let me know if you need anything advises Lyons. Experts suggest that you dont say Its going to be OK Make it clear you are there for them try to create a semblance of normalcy ask how they are feeling today and be a good listener. Its better to offer someone the opportunity to discuss things with you without pushing them to say more if they dont want to.

Cliches are often well-meaning but theyre often not the kindest thing to say to a person who is dealing with a terminal condition. In most cases a person with terminal cancer will understand your difficulty in expressing your condolences. Emily Kaplowitz who works for The Fixler Foundation an organization dedicated to supporting people faced with a life-threatening illness stresses.

For someone with a serious chronic or life limiting illness sending your support at that time might be better. Let the person know that youre willing to listen and never underestimate the value of your presence. When death occurs unexpectedly people often regret not having had a chance to do these things.

It can only be carried. For someone with a short term illness Get well soon can be perfect. The diagnosis of a terminal illness can be extremely isolating.

Everyone wishes the circumstances were otherwise. Its about the warmest thing you can say to a family member or good friend and it means even more to someone who is dying. And so will they.