If it were me I would try writing a letter to your daughter-in-law.

What do you say to your ex daughter-in-law. Call them on holidays especially their birthdays. Tell her what you have been thankful for during the time she was married to your son. We are proud to have a woman like you as our daughter-in-law.

Then my marriage fell apart after six years and I suddenly found myself relegated to the position of ex-daughter-in-law no longer welcome in what had become a second home. This method would explain all ex situations eg my ex-husbands niece my ex-husbands sister etc. According to Richard Bolstad psychotherapist and author of Transforming Communication reflective listening is a powerful technique to build rapport between two people and support communication.

If your daughter-in-law makes snide or nasty remarks about another family member perhaps your other daughter-in-law say Well she may not have much fashion sense but she is one of the sweetest people I know and I love her very much. Now that youve come along our family is complete. Pretending everything is fine is like pretending the elephant in the room isnt really there.

Daughter-In-Law You Are Wonderful Quotes My daughter-in-law is the woman my son picked to be my best friend Its always heartwarming when a married couple describes themselves as best friends But to hear this honorific title from a mother-in-law would be a dream come true for any daughter-in-law. God gave us the great gift of you. Keep things civill no matter your history with your ex and their family.

Assert your boundaries and dont feel guilty for saying no Speak up in a calm but assertive -- not aggressive -- manner when you recognize your daughter-in-laws attempt to manipulate you. Faster than you can say Its been nice knowing you Id become persona non. Accept your jealous daughter-in-law wont change.

Berner a lawyer who specializes in matrimonial mediation. I know you didnt claim the divorce was her fault but she may see it as though you do. While you cannot stop your ex you can do things to present your side of the story.