Think positive thoughts may sound like good advice but it can be dismissive of your friends feelings.

What do you say to someone who's been diagnosed with cancer. They were terrified of saying the wrong thing and upsetting the woman they love. They ended up saying very little. Often however family friends and co-workers of cancer patients want to help but just dont know what to do.

Take time to acknowledge and cope with your own emotions about the diagnosis before you see him or her. All the evidence suggests that this is the worst thing you can do. There are really only two things that need to be said to someone you love facing cancer of any stage.

And then show up give a hug bring a flower and let that friend lead the way. Supportive Words to Say to Someone with a Family Member Diagnosed with Cancer When you reach out to someone to express sympathy your message will be dictated by your relationship with them. What do you say to someone who out of the blue has been diagnosed with cancer.

Try not to say that everything will be fine or encourage them to be positive. What to say and not say when someone tells you they have cancer Supporting someone with cancer begins with active listening says Cancer Councils head of cancer information and support services Meg Chiswell. Honesty is the best policy.

Here are some things to consider before talking to a friend who has cancer. Here are some ideas about where to start. Speak through body language by placing your hand over your friends hand or give your friend a hug.

Admit that you are unsure of what to say. Write text email or call often and keep it short. Professional advice suggests you should.