Deanna Attai a breast surgeon at UCLA Health Burbank Breast Care in California who was not involved in the study says that online discussions taught her how divisive cancer survivor is and showed her some ideas for new labels including warrior thriver and even badass.

What do you say to a breast cancer survivor. If youre also a survivor its fine to say because it can give them hope of a light at the end of a tunnel If youve never had cancer dont try to relate. You may be able to tell that he is struggling to smile during your visit putting on a happy face just for you. There really is no perfect thing to say except maybe I love you Im here for you and Im bringing you chocolate right now The important thing is that youre willing to listen to learn to help and to not be well a complete boob about the whole thing.

This must be hard and Im sorry that youve got to go through this. Say anything you like to me. 18 Surviving cancer means that you will now constantly seek HAPPINESS feel GRATITUDE and spread LOVE.

So do that by saying. Your illness gives me pause for self-reflection Your courage gives me strength You have given me new-found wisdom Its a privilege to know you I am focussing on gratitude thanks to you. If you need anything let me knowurl.

How about dinner and a movie Newly. I dont know what to say other than Im here for you. Be grateful for what God has provided and choose faith over fear.

You can cry with me. Keeping my mind focused and my attitude positive made all the difference in the world says breast cancer survivor Ronda. I want you to know that Im here to listen.

This sounds ungrateful and I dont mean it that way at all howevertelling a cancer patient that theyre brave. I wont be shocked offended or hold it against you - ever As women we always worry. Your doctor may say you are in remission or that you are NED no evidence of disease.