Ask the person with cancer if they would like to talk about the experience.

What can you say to someone who has terminal cancer. For example you might. Even if it feels as if youre not doing anything your presence sends an important message. A simple I love you or Im thinking of you if youre not sure what else to say is probably just the right touch stresses Ojala.

I am here for you. Many people will. The worst you can do is to say nothing.

Speak in a calm quiet voice and avoid sudden noises or movements to reduce the chances of startling the patient. Let the person know that youre willing to listen and never underestimate the value of your presence. It must be so hard to summarise what your feeling.

Go at their pace and start by talking about things they feel comfortable with. Many people in a situation like yours would have that reaction. It is best to allow him or her to decide when.

Finding out that somebody you care about has cancer such as leukemia lymphoma or myeloma can be shocking emotional and devastating. If you ever feel like talking Im here to listen. I can hear it has been really hard for you to share thank you for sharing.

Dont ask what you can do to help or say Let me know if you need anything. But I guess you could let him know how you sympathise what he is going through and let him know that you arent holding any grudges against him and maybe wish him the best. Generally Id say that avoiding the subject is not good.