A lot of people think that in the UK the use of lethal force with a deadly weapon is not allowed in self defence.
Is it illegal to hit someone in self defense. Today two variations are discussed. However self defense is a defense to an assault charge. For either defense to apply in most states the defendant must reasonably believe that someone is in imminent danger of harm.
Traditional self-defense laws require a person who is being attacked or threatened with imminent attack to. The Y strike or the web strike and the thumb strike. Throat Strikes the legal aspect of different strikes.
Ideally you should always have access to a self-defense weapon. Is an assault and battery. While the law will allow it that doesnt mean the cops wont arrest you and charge you with assault anyhow.
That would make you the aggressor. Although it involves a different person doing the defending and the rules for it depend on the jurisdiction defense of others is very similar to self-defense. If you are forced to kill another person in self-defense you can avoid criminal charges as long as your actions were justified.
Since you say hit girls its unclear whether you are talking about adult women or girls not yet out of school. There are no special laws to allow them open fire on a criminal. But when SHTF you may lose a lot of your belongings including your weapon.
I do believe however if put in a position of self defense it is alright to defend yourself physically if necessary. Normally deadly self-defense is legal only when the person acting in self-defense is facing an imminent threat of death or serious bodily harm. Its hard to argue self-defense when youre literally on the attack.