Thats because being in the same room isnt the same as feeling connected.
Can you feel lonely in a crowd. Feeling as if you are too different to have friends. Intimacy happens when two people share their deep selves and that requires self awareness. Being alone is when no one is around you.
All those people remind you of the connections you wish you had. Its not necessarily about being physically surrounded by peoplebecause you might feel especially lonely in a crowdbut about your mentality. Just some minor interaction the voice the eye contact all of that stimulates your smart vagus which makes you feel calmer like youre a part of something Banks says.
Did you find this post helpful. If you are generally unsatisfied with the amount and nature of your personal relationships you may feel lonely. When we feel lonely we naturally want to surround ourselves with other people.
A recent University of Chicago study reviewed the results of 20 previous randomized trials on loneliness. In fact sometimes being surrounded by strangers or people youre just not very close to can just make you feel more alone. Being lonely is a feeling that transcends your outward environment and current social activities.
I have seen you come to visit again for a while. Focusing inward and addressing the negative thoughts that underlie loneliness in the first place. When you let a painful emotion hits into your heart with compassion it disarms them and takes away all the bitterness.
Because you care for me and you want to make sure Im fine. That empty feeling wont go away if you are looking to fill it from the outside. Connection takes intentional time and effort.